In honor of Eating Disorder Awareness Week and the end of a fun, intimate month; this week, I am going to welcome you into my own life of struggles with disordered eating and into my intimate relationship. Both; our relationship with food and our intimate relationships are directly interconnected with each other and you will know exactly how so.
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Now lets me start by explaining the differences between all the forms of eating disorders, and disordered eating. Not all eating disordered are the same; they are complex and have a psychological cause of them. The uneducated, hear the term “eating disorder” and immediately picture a young woman with all her clothes drape like curtains on her thin frame, fatigue drawn onto her face with the edges of her facial bones. This is NOT the face of every eating disorder/disordered eating!
It is the 13 year old girl who just started her journey into her womanhood, who discretely slips off to the bathroom after every meal in order to stick her finger down her throat so she will continue looking for her friends but mean while chronically in fear of being “found out” and her ongoing body changes.
It is the male high school wrestler, gorging himself on every food he deprived himself in order to meet weight class weight.
It is the 52-year-old, mother of 2 children who after a regular 12 hour work day and driving her kids to and from soccer practices; can’t trust herself to stop eating once the first bite touches her lips. She fears the animal-like urge that leads her to devour all & anything in arm’s length, the cycle of guilt that always follows.
Research suggests that up to 50% of the population demonstrate problematic or disordered relationships with food, body, and exercise. Rates of clinical eating disorders are much lower, estimated from 1% to 3% of the general population. -Psychology Today
Eating disorders included Anorexia Nervosa, Binge Eating Disorder, Bulimia Nervosa, and etc. The type of eating disorder that has consumed me in some moments in my past and (alert: vulnerable moment) still at times, is….Binge Eating.
Through my transition out of the bodybuilding industry; my body, my emotions, and my relationships were changing. Due to the lack of EFAs (Essential Fatty Acids), I had deprived my body while in the industry; my body was craving, savaging around from grocery store to grocery store, and ultimately devouring within 15 minutes an entire 2lb container of almond butter. A situation I still find myself when I am not tapped into…..
When food was no longer easily assessable, the consciousness slowly crept up with the help of empty jars, opened wrappers, dirty dishes in the sick, and etc. Then the most dangerous parts starts; the thoughts which lead to our emotions following the event.
Consciousness is the strongest alley for anyone who is given the beautiful gift of eating disorders/disordered eating. This super power is how I went from a perfectionist is driven, 5 years long single, 29-year-old, girl to a self-confident, strong, 30-year-old, women in a vulnerable and open-dialogue relationship.
Like many of us, it is much easier to place a mask over our own consciousness. However, ignoring symptoms, conflict, and/or resistance will never resolve the true cause of the disordered eating, issues in relationships, and etc. Becoming conscious of our opportunities, struggles, and gifts in whatever form they appear allows us to set our standards; in our self-worth, relationships, and all areas of life. by setting, practice consistently, expect and have courage enough to speak those standards to my boyfriend; I believe we have gained mutual respect and self-confidence. Confidence; which we all know is what real men, who are lucky to have such an amazing imperfect woman, find the most attractive in a woman. (no matter weight, body type, or looks)
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This post in no means the encouragement of eating disorders or disordered eating. It is strictly opinion based on my own personal experience and self-study. Not sure, if you are experiencing disordered eating or have developed a disordered relationship with food? Click here for the
5 SIGNS OF DISORDERED EATING &
THE 5 WAYS THE SHIFT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD.
Please leave a comment below if my struggles sound familiar to you or to someone in your direct life. I am truly passionate about building consciousness and support for those who are silently struggling.